Here’s a question for the married couples:
Do you celebrate (even nominally) two anniversaries? Obviously the date of your wedding is always a big deal, and we tally up the years and reminisce. But do you make a note of the OTHER anniversary? That moment in time, or first date or just “hello” with this stranger whom you-didn’t-realize-at-the-time would be in your future forever? This has been a light-hearted joke between John and I over the years. You can guess why, right? Here is Dave Barry’s perspective on it:
“What women want: to be loved, to be listened to, to be desired, to be respected, to be needed, to be trusted, and sometimes, just to be held. What men want: Tickets for the World Series.” ~ Dave Barry
John likes to tease me that my focus on both Oct 14, 1986 and June 16, 1990 is just “angling for more presents” and asking him to remember two dates is cruel and unusual punishment. But my whole premise is that “If you didn’t have the one day, you couldn’t have had the other.” therefore, it matters. And if it mattered BEFORE the marriage (It must have. He proposed on our 3rd year anniversary.) then it shouldn’t be dropped like an old sock when the new anniversary comes along. So we banter back and forth each year-it doesn’t truly bother me, and John knows it. He isn’t romantic and I am overly so, and we find each others traits amusing. Plus I think we enjoy teasing each other so much, that any old excuse will do! But last night when I came home, John shocked me with a gift to celebrate how TWENTY-TWO YEARS ago he got my phone # from a friend of mine in our church Youth Group. With sweaty palms, his 16 year old self called my house. My 14 year old self chattered at him for 15 minutes before asking him just which boy this was, again? And that’s how this fun ride began…
I know this boy a little better, now. And he certainly knows the way to MY heart:
A new mug (and he noticed me looking at it last week! See, that’s romantic!) and a fat ole gift card to go with. Because he knows that I blow the majority of my Starbucks budget in the Autumn.
Those Pumpkin Spice lattes? It is like drinking pie.